4 things I’ve learnt on my self love journey 🤍
As I look back on all the years, I realise how far I have actually come. I know I am no where near where I want to be but I know I’m on the right path.
Today I share 5 things that I have learnt on my self love journey so far.
1. The journey to self-love is not linear.
I had days where I was able to easily get up, focus primarily on my goals and continue throughout my day with positive self talk. However, I also had days that were filled with self-doubt and criticism. At first, I didn’t understand. How can I go from feeling on top of the world to feeling nothing at all? Was I back to square one? I wasn’t.
Over time, I soon came to realise that these ‘down days’ were inevitable. I learnt to be okay with having these days.
2. Acknowledge and feel my emotions.
As I am a highly emotionally sensitive human, when I feel, I feel it all. At first, I thought this was a weakness but it’s actually a strength. It is an absolute blessing to be able to know that its okay to be angry or anxious or whatever unwanted feeling I was experiencing. I let myself feel what I needed to feel but I didn’t let it ruin how I spent my day.
Over time, I knew what my coping strategies toolkit looked like and I would reach for this in times of need.
3. Stopped comparing myself to others.
I’ve wanted to be someone I’m not. I’ve wanted to have certain things others had that I didn’t. Those around me were getting married, having kids, moving out. Why wasn’t I?
But we’re not all travelling down the same paths. I learnt that each individual is unique and that’s what makes us who WE are. There is no such thing that says when you should reach a specific milestone. Live presently and let life flow.
4. Celebrate my efforts and wins.
I have accomplished many things in my life so far… some of those being graduating from University, overcoming mental health issues.
I will forever have goals I want to accomplish but instead of looking at the ‘end goal’, I try to look at the journey and my small wins and efforts to see how far I’ve come.